As a teen, I remember dreaming that one day I would get a chance to date, after reading all of my grandmother's near 100 Harlequin romance novels and watching the soap operas and various other shows and movies about love stories.
I dreamed that things would turn out for me like some of those stories.
And, then it happened, I began to date in my senior year. Wow, I had finally become "popular".
My Very First Alone DateI was feeling so grown up and honored that a guy at my new school asked me out to celebrate my scholarship. I wasn't interested in him, but thought he was my friend, so I said okay. And my parents said that I could go. So, he picked me up at my house and met my parents.
He took me where he told my parents he was going to take me, to get some quick food and then to a movie, and then to dinner after. However, we never made it to the dinner after because he "needed" to drop by his house first to grab a comedy video that he thought I would want to see. Of course he couldn't find it and no one else was at his house, so he turned on the tv instead to see if he could find a good comedy show on cable. The next thing I knew he had dimmed the lights and was next to me trying to put his arm around me. I was too naive to understand what was happening. He set me up. Things progressed further and further and finally stopped when I told him "NO". He took me home, muttering something along the lines that if my parents weren't around he wouldn't have stopped.
I was very, very grateful to God that I was only unsuccessfully seduced that night and nothing further happened. I know a lot of girls' stories ended differently than that.
I am glad that my parents had met him, but what if they wouldn't let me go, and I snuck out? I would have been all alone with that creep for him to do as he pleased. And this happens to so many girls.
But, things didn't quite stop there. After we got back to school, I stayed away from him, of course. But then I was told that there was a rumor that he had gotten what he wanted. That hurt me more than what he actually did. That he would lie about it and give me a bad reputation. This happens to a lot of girls, too.
There are things that can be done to prevent all of these scenarios, if you will listen. No one told me how to handle these things when I was younger. However, with this series of blog posts, I will share my story and the wisdom that I have gained over time.
Also, if you know the Lord, learn how to follow his leading, and stay away from the wrong kinds of people.
I was not good with choosing my friends. I was the new girl and let friends choose me because I was lonely, having just recently moved there. As an adult, I now know better, but wish I'd known better then.
ConclusionIf you don't know the Lord, accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior today. He wants to live in your heart so that He can guide you and lead you and be your protection. For more information on salvation, go to
www.UnderstandJesus.org.
Also, if you want more wisdom on how to be safer, see the links on the right for more information, as well.
God bless you!
(This personal, private story has never been shared in a public forum before. However, it is shared openly here for the benefit of youth, especially for the girls; and it is dedicated to my two daughters and my niece.)
(http://tinyurl.com/safegirl)
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